The Serene Way

I.L.C (Integrative Life Coaching) session conversation

 

PART III

 

Identify patterns from your life and how they can be used to your best advantage

Achieve balance between work, home and play

Create personal tools to maintain and enhance a healthy lifestyle

 

 

P.:  ah…the infamous turtle…

 
Tim W.:  hahahah…there are many parables that we take for granted and pay lip service to, yet there are tremendous simplicities within them

P.:  are they not written for children…hmmm…

P.:  you do know that the originals were written for adults oftentimes?

Tim W.:  we are children…with active minds…we

P.:  oh…I love that…

P.:  yes we are all children…

Tim W.:  we lose that aspect of our selves

Tim W.:  the most important this is to play…enjoy all that we do

P.:  I tell my students that I am almost as young as them when they ask my age…

Tim W.:  find that within and you find truth

Tim W.:  I say I’m as old as my shoe size and will stay that way

P.:  perhaps this truth is why I enjoy beeing with children so much…

Tim W.:  society makes us think we have to act in a certain manner…at least children are authentic

P.:  lol…I haven’t tried that one

P.:  yes, children are gems in the universe

Tim W.:  yes, and we forget that this is part of who we are

P.:  so many do forget Tim, but I’m with you..play is important

P.:  and think about it…young children learn through their play…

P.:  adults do too…

P.:  how we interact with our environment can give us varied experiences, yes?

Tim W.:  exactly…laughter is the greatest way to get someone to remember something

Tim W.:  absolutely

Tim W.:  make it fun

Tim W.:  why make it any other way when it causes pain

Tim W.:  enjoy…be…totally

P.:  yes! and Tim?

P.:  you’re welcome to come to my classroom anytime…smiles… we do have lots of fun

Tim W.:  hahahaha….that’s too sweet@!!

P.:  shhh…just don’t tell the grownups

Tim W.:  they wouldn’t understand…though they should!!

P.:  lol…

Tim W.:  see you have this wonderful circumstance to see how to be…real…total..authentic…look to the children and you can find it in them…the let it all go…you only have to do the same

Tim W.:  all lovely creatures of creation

P.:  its funny you say that because I am most at peace when i am with them

P.:  I forget myself in a sense…I know you’ll understand that statement

P.:  if i could carry that over…sigh

P.:  animals are…

Tim W.:  then you only have to bring that with you…in this sense taking your work home is a good thing…hahaha

P.:  I see them, watch them and try to learn from their existence…

Tim W.:  you can…it is in your mind…if it is in your mind…quiet the merry go round and bring it to that point

Tim W.:  that is all they do, exist!

P.:  yes, i think meditation is beginning to help me with that…

Tim W.:  we put all the other stuff on them and ourselves..expectations, cultural taboos, etc

P.:  yes, you understand my meaning about animals

P.:  to be as they are…

Tim W.:  find what works for you…meditation is not just sitting and being silent or stilling the mind…for you when you reach that state in the classroom that is your meditation…the natural way for you

P.:  it is…

P.:  yes?

Tim W.:  it would seem so from what you have said…

Tim W.:  it is there you feel at one…the best you feel

P.:  it is also different from my meditation….when i am with them…I can just be

P.:  meditation goes through steps

Tim W.:  then you have just reached your own answer

Tim W.:  yes, and those steps are there as a method, if it cannot be attained in another way

 

P.:  so, i need to be with children all the time…grins

Tim W.:  hahahah….that depends on you…too much of a good thing

Tim W.:  lol

P.:  you have just given me a gift Tim…thank you

P.:  moderation, eh?

P.:  nature hikes bring me to me as well…that stillness I mean

Tim W.:  remember just being with them is the same as having the mind calmed in thinking like when you are with them

Tim W.:  there that is another place of meditation for you

P.:  now you have me searching for those moments

Tim W.:  the stillness, peace or whatever you wish to call it can manifest in many different ways…the thing is to bring that with you in all things and be that way in all things

Tim W.:  and you will find them…the too are part of your experience and patterns…being consciously aware of them will bring them into other situations where they bring this sense of just being

P.:  I am learning to let things be…to find that inner place

P.:  to let go of judgement

Tim W.:  you have found that inner place…it is only to remember that it is always there

Tim W.:  when you have that sense of being is there any judgement?

P.:  no need for judgement

Tim W.:  Is there a force to let things be?

P.:  no force

Tim W.:  ahhh…

P.:  things just are and all is okay

P.:  no fear even

Tim W.:  again you have found your answers…they are there…it is to remember just the being at those times…bring those situations to the conscious mind and all else no longer exists

Tim W.:  even fear

Tim W.:  the pratical becomes theory which can be again used in practical application

P.:  hmmm.

Tim W.:  the shift is only in the mind, conscious thought

P.:  thinking of outside influences…

P.:  everything is connected

Tim W.:  are they really outside?

P.:  ha

P.:  thinking same thoughts?

Tim W.:  yes, and yes

Tim W.:  so if you have fear…think of the hike…what happens to the fear…gone - yes?

P.:  yes…

Tim W.:  when you are judging…think of the children (being) what happens to the judgement…gone - yes?

P.:  definitely

Tim W.:  now you are using your own experience to lift your energy and to work through any turmoil that the mind creates…

P.:  I like that, yes, i feel the positive energy in that

Tim W.:  you have found your centre in different places…just bring that to all places that you are

P.:  it is so simple

Tim W.:  only when we are off that centre does the other stuff come about…yet we know the (absolutely) the simplicity of it

Tim W.:  good on ya!

P.:  yes, and…it’s okay to just be

P.:  confession

P.:  ?

Tim W.:  yeppers…we learn there…we exist there…we can experience all

P.:  any situation

P.:  is okay now

Tim W.:  it is all connected it is all part of who we are as emotional, physical and energetic beings

P.:  acceptance of self  of all

Tim W.:  it can be ok if we get to that centre…the mind doesn’t want us to get there because then it doesn’t have control or life

Tim W.:  exactly

P.:  silly…

P.:  emotions….

P.:  experiencing a silly tear…argh

Tim W.:  they are beautiful…they are the colour of our lives…just not to control us

Tim W.:  tears are beautiful, they are water and water is life

Tim W.:  the cleanse, they give life

P.:  water is…a tear is… I am…

P.:  how do i thank you…

|Tim W.:  no more need be said

Tim W.:  for what?

P.:  this conversation

Tim W.:  you have seen yourself

P.:  for being

Tim W.:  hahahah

P.:  smiles

Tim W.:  and that is returned…many fold!!

Tim W.:  we learn from interaction…all is…

P.:  yes, but what has Tim learned from this?

Tim W.:  Tim has connected with another beautiful soul that is on a wonderful journey to light

Tim W.:  we have shared our experience our thoughts and created a connection that is full of light

P.:  as has P…

P.:  reconnected…grins

Tim W.:  he has seen that light comes from shadow and has learned love is and as P. says “I am”

 

P.:  we are

Tim W.:  ONE~

 

 

 

©T.S. (Tim) White, 2008

All Rights reserved. 

www.TheSereneWay.com

 

 

 

 

I.L.C – Part I

I.L.C – Part II

 

 

For more information about I.L.C - Integrative Life Coaching, please feel free to contact Tim at tsw@TheSereneWay.com

 

I.L.C (Integrative Life Coaching) session conversation

 

PART II

 

Identify patterns from your life and how they can be used to your best advantage

Achieve balance between work, home and play

Create personal tools to maintain and enhance a healthy lifestyle

 

 

Tim W.:  that is a step in creating the witness

Tim W.:  when we look at things from this ‘detached’ witness we are no longer part of the reaction.

Tim W.:  we can look at is as separate, yet part of who we are

Tim W.:  the patterns are so ingrained and sub or un conscious that we are not able to recognize them in a conscious manner

Tim W.:  all programmed before we are 6 years old

 

P.:  yet does the reaction change…go away? doesn’t there always have to be a reaction to every action so to speak?

 

Tim W.:  it may not go away…it will be our first line of defence…but in awareness we have the ability to deal with it inside rather than projecting it onto a person or object

 

P.:  before 6? I’ve heard that children before the age of six can sometimes remember a past life

 

Tim W.:  we all have that ability…

Tim W.:  we get to a point around 2 where we don’t remember prior to that

Tim W.:  we can however train the mind to find those chemical and biological patterns to go back further…

Tim W.:  then we can remember invitro and then into past lives…at least according to what I have read and it seems to make some sense to me…anything is possible

 

P.:  would that bring us to a better awarenes?

 

Tim W.:  that is life’s search

Tim W.:  always within

 

P.:  I mean an awareness to the truth of all

 

Tim W.:  I find meditation has been a great tool for this

 

P.:  I have just started meditation after my accident…it has done so much for me

 

Tim W.:  that in itself is merely acceptance…we struggle to find reason and we struggle to learn acceptance…that stuggle is struggle not acceptance

 

P.:  I am a beginner

 

Tim W.:  we all are…we learn to roll on our tummies before we sit, then crawl, walk then run

 

P.:  so there does not have to be a reason? we just are, yes?

 

Tim W.:  start from where we are and move from there…the issue arises that we want the goal immediately…and them mind then says it is impossible

Tim W.:  there does not have to be a reason…all just is

Tim W.:  or neti, neti…not this, not this

Tim W.:  our mind tries to say there are reasons, because that is its function…finding black and white…yet there are many colours and shades

 

P.:  I have so much to discover…I am only just discovering…I often feel so human in my thinking…smiles

 

Tim W.:  we have to allow … in that desire we put energy into it and it gets further away…I call it the shopping cart syndrome…we puch the cart and it stays in front of us..only when we let go do we walk

Tim W.:  into it

Tim W.:  we are HUMAN

Tim W.:  so feeling so is a truth

Tim W.:  accept it an be so…we have animal instincts and divine…we are both

Tim W.:  we are all

Tim W.:  all is us

 

P.:  yes, I think that desire can become a double edged sword in this

 

Tim W.:  desire again like fear is within the mind

 

P.:  desire is and fear is…

 

Tim W.:  we may achieve that desire, but where does that leave us…creating a new desire and the cycle continues

 

P.:  no?

P.:  sigh…a pattern begins…

 

Tim W.:  they are manifestations of the mind…they exist there but no where else

Tim W.:  so so they exist…if we make it so yes…if we do not then we only have now, the present, love, bliss and being

 

P.:  we are all…different parts of a whole

 

Tim W.:  and the whole is different parts of us

Tim W.:  they are one in the same

 

P.:  yes i see that now

P.:  the power of now

 

Tim W.:  refractions of the light…a crystal will refract the colours of the spectrum yet it is from a single light

 

P.:  a great example Tim

 

Tim W.:  Eckhart Tolle…power of now…yes

Tim W.:  simple yet the mind keeps us from it.

Tim W.:  depression from thinking about the past

Tim W.:  worry from thinking about the future

 

P.:  how does one stay on track…

P.:  arrgh

 

Tim W.:  neither exist except within the mind

 

P.:  worry destroys

P.:  sounds so peaceful

 

Tim W.:  on track…we are continually on track

 

P.:  what will be, will be

 

Tim W.:  only our judgements on it create the illusion of something different

Tim W.:  yes worry destroys, but it keeps things in check as well…and we come back to good and bad…both and neither

 

P.:  this may sound strange…but….what does one do with the mind??

 

Tim W.:  we can try to control it…through awareness…the reactions may still be for a time…but in time with that new patterns are established and then it simply is

Tim W.:  that is what meditation brings us to

 

P.:  ahhh

 

Tim W.:  first focus…to keep the mind on track

Tim W.:  then concentration…to keep the mind steady

Tim W.:  then meditation when the mind is stilled

 

P.:  peace comes with this stillness

 

Tim W.:  the samadhi…when the soul is now in full awareness

Tim W.:  stillness comes with stillness….peace again is a definition within the mind

 

P.:  but i have noticed that I am becoming unconsciously aware of things

P.:  after I meditate I mean

 

Tim W.:  hmmm…unconsciously aware of things…if you are aware then it is in the conscious

 

P.:  would it be that stillness and peace are one and the same minus the label?

 

Tim W.:  in meditation then you are bringing things from the unconscious to the conscious mind so they can be addressed

Tim W.:  absolutely…labels and definitions…peace exists because of its opposite…stillness exists because of its opposite…when in total we are just being

 

P.:  so, the things that I label important are coming to the surface and I am becoming aware of them

 

Tim W.:  or things that you are not aware of that are important are coming to the surface…

Tim W.:  six in one half a dozen in the other

 

P.:  thanks Tim

 

Tim W.:  if they did not exist in your mind prior…they were not conscious thoughts..they lie beneath…in bringing them to the surface then the waves can be seen and they too become only the ocean

 

P.:  I’m gathering a better understanding

 

Tim W.:  it all comes P.

Tim W.:  just like the turtle

Tim W.:  he does in the end win the race…though in reality there is no race only being

 

P.:  ah…the infamous turtle…

 

 
Tim W.:  hahahah…there are many parables that we take for granted and pay lip service to, yet there are tremendous simplicities within them

 

P.:  are they not written for children…hmmm…

 

To be continued….

 

Stay tuned…

 

Part III will be available one week from today!

 

 

 

 

 

©T.S. (Tim) White, 2008

All Rights reserved. 

www.TheSereneWay.com

 

 

“Only human beings can change their evil ways, their ups and downs, pitfalls, shortcomings, anger, pride—all their bad qualities. Then they can experience their own divine nature.”

Paramahamsa Hariharananda

 

 

In Tibetan Book of the Living and Dying, Sogyal Rinpoche states, “Hatred and anger, when truly recognized, arise with diamond like clarity, free from grasping; this is the ‘mirror like wisdom.” Here is the wonderful imagery of the mirror, a reflection upon the surface. When we are not in front of the mirror there is only the reflective surface; it is only when we stand in front of it that we see a reflection of our physical self. There are many surfaces upon which there are reflections, whether a mirror, a conversation, or words upon a blank piece of paper. Each of these allows us the opportunity for realization and an unfolding of awareness of the self. To that end, when we fight or argue, we are arguing against and with ourselves; the mirror absent of the divine self.

 

Anger and resentment can manifest with righteous indignation. A recent posting, titled “The Secret & Law of Attraction as Fabrications of Greed”, elicited the following response:

 

“I read the article you posted and thoroughly agree with its central precepts. These are concepts that I have felt inwardly to be true for a long time.

 

However, the downfall of the materialism which you mentioned, that the Gnostics and Cathars considered to ruin the souls of men and lead them away from the path of light, can only be achieved by the demise of world Jewry and the final destruction of ‘man-centred’ Judaeo-Christian thinking everywhere.

 

The Jew is the archetype of capitalist man and only stands to gain from a sterile economic worldview. That is why you find them as the the spiritus rectus behind globalisation and the New World Order—the ferment of decomposition of peoples and nations.”

 

In this response we see a concept that singles out a cultural/religious group in order to place blame. To be true to the facts, this group was given, by another religious group, the fiduciary responsibility that these ‘Christians’ were unwilling to shoulder based on the dogma of their belief system. Even then, there was an occlusion from society for those that were given this usury provision. Historically speaking, there has always been a division based on class, economic background and heritage, whether the kings and queens of ancient Egypt, the caste system of India, or the hierarchy of any other society, old or new. The only concern involves the society that creates this segregation and separation and continues to maintain the illusion of elitism.

 

 

A ‘man-centred’ ideology is not limited to Judeo-Christian belief—it is a fact of the world around us, no matter the cultural or religious background. It is this ‘man-centred-ness’ that prohibits forward movement and progress. It matters little what we say ‘against’ current belief systems; it matters little that we ‘point fingers’ or argue and feel resentment towards any group. It is what we can do individually to change our self, our immediate circle of influence in terms of acceptance and tolerance offered with compassion, that is important.

 

The manifestation of anger can result from something as trivial as squeezing a tube of toothpaste from the top. Again, the egocentric person feels resentment when their preferences are seemingly disregarded. This resentment unleashes anger. The tube of toothpaste has no feeling whether it is squeezed from the top or bottom. It is within the self that these emotions are created with various ego-centred rationalizations. These too are illusions of the mind, the distorted reflections of the mind upon the mirror.

 

Anger and resentment are currently observed every day as ‘road rage’. There seems to be a sense of entitlement to space and an inability to have patience (i.e., tolerance, consideration and empathy). The space is not ours, as space itself is an illusion and we are merely here to ‘tend’ to this world and each other. We are integrally connected to all that is around us; cause and effect is a ‘two-way street’—that which is given out is returned.

 

I have seen cars weave in and out of traffic to get to the ‘head of the line’, speeding as if in a race. There is little difference in the minute or two gained, or reaching the next street light before someone else. If we are moving we will get to our destination. In the meantime, if we appreciate all that is around us, we realize acceptance and tolerance.

 

Many times I have been cut off while riding my bicycle in traffic. Luckily, on a bike you can stop pretty quickly, and being out in ‘space’ you are able to breathe. It is within this breathing that we are able to manifest tolerance and compassion, and experience the wonder of the world around us.

 

We can only change our self. We can alter how we react to the mirror in front of us. It is with awareness that we can transmute anger and resentment—whether they stem from economic or cultural factors, religious elitism, or simple daily stressors—into a realization of compassion, tolerance and acceptance on a Path to Light.