The Serene Way

I.L.C (Integrative Life Coaching) session conversation

 

PART III

 

Identify patterns from your life and how they can be used to your best advantage

Achieve balance between work, home and play

Create personal tools to maintain and enhance a healthy lifestyle

 

 

P.:  ah…the infamous turtle…

 
Tim W.:  hahahah…there are many parables that we take for granted and pay lip service to, yet there are tremendous simplicities within them

P.:  are they not written for children…hmmm…

P.:  you do know that the originals were written for adults oftentimes?

Tim W.:  we are children…with active minds…we

P.:  oh…I love that…

P.:  yes we are all children…

Tim W.:  we lose that aspect of our selves

Tim W.:  the most important this is to play…enjoy all that we do

P.:  I tell my students that I am almost as young as them when they ask my age…

Tim W.:  find that within and you find truth

Tim W.:  I say I’m as old as my shoe size and will stay that way

P.:  perhaps this truth is why I enjoy beeing with children so much…

Tim W.:  society makes us think we have to act in a certain manner…at least children are authentic

P.:  lol…I haven’t tried that one

P.:  yes, children are gems in the universe

Tim W.:  yes, and we forget that this is part of who we are

P.:  so many do forget Tim, but I’m with you..play is important

P.:  and think about it…young children learn through their play…

P.:  adults do too…

P.:  how we interact with our environment can give us varied experiences, yes?

Tim W.:  exactly…laughter is the greatest way to get someone to remember something

Tim W.:  absolutely

Tim W.:  make it fun

Tim W.:  why make it any other way when it causes pain

Tim W.:  enjoy…be…totally

P.:  yes! and Tim?

P.:  you’re welcome to come to my classroom anytime…smiles… we do have lots of fun

Tim W.:  hahahaha….that’s too sweet@!!

P.:  shhh…just don’t tell the grownups

Tim W.:  they wouldn’t understand…though they should!!

P.:  lol…

Tim W.:  see you have this wonderful circumstance to see how to be…real…total..authentic…look to the children and you can find it in them…the let it all go…you only have to do the same

Tim W.:  all lovely creatures of creation

P.:  its funny you say that because I am most at peace when i am with them

P.:  I forget myself in a sense…I know you’ll understand that statement

P.:  if i could carry that over…sigh

P.:  animals are…

Tim W.:  then you only have to bring that with you…in this sense taking your work home is a good thing…hahaha

P.:  I see them, watch them and try to learn from their existence…

Tim W.:  you can…it is in your mind…if it is in your mind…quiet the merry go round and bring it to that point

Tim W.:  that is all they do, exist!

P.:  yes, i think meditation is beginning to help me with that…

Tim W.:  we put all the other stuff on them and ourselves..expectations, cultural taboos, etc

P.:  yes, you understand my meaning about animals

P.:  to be as they are…

Tim W.:  find what works for you…meditation is not just sitting and being silent or stilling the mind…for you when you reach that state in the classroom that is your meditation…the natural way for you

P.:  it is…

P.:  yes?

Tim W.:  it would seem so from what you have said…

Tim W.:  it is there you feel at one…the best you feel

P.:  it is also different from my meditation….when i am with them…I can just be

P.:  meditation goes through steps

Tim W.:  then you have just reached your own answer

Tim W.:  yes, and those steps are there as a method, if it cannot be attained in another way

 

P.:  so, i need to be with children all the time…grins

Tim W.:  hahahah….that depends on you…too much of a good thing

Tim W.:  lol

P.:  you have just given me a gift Tim…thank you

P.:  moderation, eh?

P.:  nature hikes bring me to me as well…that stillness I mean

Tim W.:  remember just being with them is the same as having the mind calmed in thinking like when you are with them

Tim W.:  there that is another place of meditation for you

P.:  now you have me searching for those moments

Tim W.:  the stillness, peace or whatever you wish to call it can manifest in many different ways…the thing is to bring that with you in all things and be that way in all things

Tim W.:  and you will find them…the too are part of your experience and patterns…being consciously aware of them will bring them into other situations where they bring this sense of just being

P.:  I am learning to let things be…to find that inner place

P.:  to let go of judgement

Tim W.:  you have found that inner place…it is only to remember that it is always there

Tim W.:  when you have that sense of being is there any judgement?

P.:  no need for judgement

Tim W.:  Is there a force to let things be?

P.:  no force

Tim W.:  ahhh…

P.:  things just are and all is okay

P.:  no fear even

Tim W.:  again you have found your answers…they are there…it is to remember just the being at those times…bring those situations to the conscious mind and all else no longer exists

Tim W.:  even fear

Tim W.:  the pratical becomes theory which can be again used in practical application

P.:  hmmm.

Tim W.:  the shift is only in the mind, conscious thought

P.:  thinking of outside influences…

P.:  everything is connected

Tim W.:  are they really outside?

P.:  ha

P.:  thinking same thoughts?

Tim W.:  yes, and yes

Tim W.:  so if you have fear…think of the hike…what happens to the fear…gone - yes?

P.:  yes…

Tim W.:  when you are judging…think of the children (being) what happens to the judgement…gone - yes?

P.:  definitely

Tim W.:  now you are using your own experience to lift your energy and to work through any turmoil that the mind creates…

P.:  I like that, yes, i feel the positive energy in that

Tim W.:  you have found your centre in different places…just bring that to all places that you are

P.:  it is so simple

Tim W.:  only when we are off that centre does the other stuff come about…yet we know the (absolutely) the simplicity of it

Tim W.:  good on ya!

P.:  yes, and…it’s okay to just be

P.:  confession

P.:  ?

Tim W.:  yeppers…we learn there…we exist there…we can experience all

P.:  any situation

P.:  is okay now

Tim W.:  it is all connected it is all part of who we are as emotional, physical and energetic beings

P.:  acceptance of self  of all

Tim W.:  it can be ok if we get to that centre…the mind doesn’t want us to get there because then it doesn’t have control or life

Tim W.:  exactly

P.:  silly…

P.:  emotions….

P.:  experiencing a silly tear…argh

Tim W.:  they are beautiful…they are the colour of our lives…just not to control us

Tim W.:  tears are beautiful, they are water and water is life

Tim W.:  the cleanse, they give life

P.:  water is…a tear is… I am…

P.:  how do i thank you…

|Tim W.:  no more need be said

Tim W.:  for what?

P.:  this conversation

Tim W.:  you have seen yourself

P.:  for being

Tim W.:  hahahah

P.:  smiles

Tim W.:  and that is returned…many fold!!

Tim W.:  we learn from interaction…all is…

P.:  yes, but what has Tim learned from this?

Tim W.:  Tim has connected with another beautiful soul that is on a wonderful journey to light

Tim W.:  we have shared our experience our thoughts and created a connection that is full of light

P.:  as has P…

P.:  reconnected…grins

Tim W.:  he has seen that light comes from shadow and has learned love is and as P. says “I am”

 

P.:  we are

Tim W.:  ONE~

 

 

 

©T.S. (Tim) White, 2008

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I.L.C – Part I

I.L.C – Part II

 

 

For more information about I.L.C - Integrative Life Coaching, please feel free to contact Tim at tsw@TheSereneWay.com

 

The Silent Wait

 

 

The storm exists within the infinite sky: clouds ominous and dark billow and swirls toward the eye within, energies evolving through its simple movement whether manifested as light, sound, wind or rain.

 

Between the lightening strike and the crock of thunder’s roll is the silent wait, where the transition of energy is from light to sound then a return to nothing. The non-presence of no thing—the silent wait.

 

Within the silent wait there is only the potential to exhibit various forms of energy. It is expressed as light and sounds within the vortex of the storm, distance the regulator of our perception. No matter the speed of the transition, the silent wait always exists, for it is from here that all things manifest.

 

The storm continuously moves. It is through this movement the energies gather culminating in the wrath of the storm. Lightening strikes though it’s centrifugal movement, winds raging through its rotation, rain following the path of the storm. Yet, within is the eye is the infinite sky, always still and calm no matter what is happening in its periphery, silent to cause and effect.

 

Even between cause and effect, know that the silent wait forever exists.

 

In the breath—movement in and movement out—there is a pause between the change from inhale to exhale, again here is the silent wait. The same can be said for the beat of the heart—a beat, a pause—it is in the resting that we find the silent wait.

 

Electrical charges bounce along pathways to the brain, spinning towards receptor centres like the electrical charges of the storm expressed as lightening. Here in the brain there is a translation or a transition from electrical impulse—the cause—from the periphery to these centres which in turn has effect upon that same periphery, the body itself. This moment of transition or translation is the silent wait, where potential is yet to be expressed.

 

Energy is expressed based on movement whether it is physical as with the storm, the breath or the beat of the heart. It can also be expressed in the form of thought as illustrated by the electrical impulses within the brain that are translated into knowing or reaction, the cause and effect.

 

Cause and effect seem to continue incessantly always missing the silent wait, too wrapped up in its own mechanisms. Awareness of the silent wait wakens the observer—the witness—who has only potential. There is the ceasing any imposition of value or judgement. There is a moment of rest which comforts and holds.

 

The silent wait is between all, before and after everything, the point to which we all return even from the darkest recesses of the storm of our minds.

 

If cause and effect exist not in the silent wait then nor do bliss, joy, anger, resentment or struggle. Life becomes pure existence, pure potential with no walls or boundaries. The mind is calm, the wild beast is tamed, movement ceases as the waves of consciousness are quieted. The loss of self seemingly like paralysis, yet in no self is true existence, a deep current of expansiveness—One ocean, One life, One will.

 

The silent wait is freedom.

 

Live in the silent wait.

 

Be the silent wait.

 

 

 

 

©The Serene Way

T.S. (Tim) White

September, 2008

Tolerance, Acceptance & Understanding

The roles that we are ‘assigned’ by society are part of our cultural heritage and environmental experience, often thought of as patriarchal though, I have to admit that my upbringing was much more matriarchal in its construct. The major role of mother/grandmother in the family was much more dominant, from my perspective at least.

Through a cultural/historical evolution we have stereotyped specific attributes as masculine and feminine.

There is a teaching in Yoga that there are three major channels of energy, one central and balanced to which we strive and the other two on either side being sun and moon energy. It is here that I tend to shy away from the association of masculine-sun and moon-feminine and prefer to the description of active and reflective energy or character traits taken to that level. In this way we are no longer making unnecessary associations based on gender only the energetic aspects of personality, both are necessary for a balance to be achieved. One does not exist without the other. Our emotions can be associated with one of these energies, just like the magnetic field of the earth or a battery both are needed to complete the circle of energy, ebb and flow. When we place positive and negative in this instance there is perhaps only a slight thought of good and bad. Yet, when we use that in a description of traits then there is more of a judgement. They are neither, they must be in order to be complete and return to balance, only with one more dominant can anything be accomplished no matter what we call it, masculine/feminine, active/reflective, right/left (again we have an association with right being correct and left being associated with evil if raised in a particular religious environment). The sun energy is the active force and the moon the reflective or nurturing energy. Like the changing of the seasons we need both in order to manifest upon the physical plane we have to act, yet the act can only take place after the idea or thought has been brought to the conscious mind. Thus, the latter is the reflective energy of creation. Both in tandem give rise to the manifestation of anything within that which is All on a path to light.

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