I.L.C (Integrative Life Coaching) session conversation

 

PART II

 

Identify patterns from your life and how they can be used to your best advantage

Achieve balance between work, home and play

Create personal tools to maintain and enhance a healthy lifestyle

 

 

Tim W.:  that is a step in creating the witness

Tim W.:  when we look at things from this ‘detached’ witness we are no longer part of the reaction.

Tim W.:  we can look at is as separate, yet part of who we are

Tim W.:  the patterns are so ingrained and sub or un conscious that we are not able to recognize them in a conscious manner

Tim W.:  all programmed before we are 6 years old

 


P.:  yet does the reaction change…go away? doesn’t there always have to be a reaction to every action so to speak?

 


Tim W.:  it may not go away…it will be our first line of defence…but in awareness we have the ability to deal with it inside rather than projecting it onto a person or object

 


P.:  before 6? I’ve heard that children before the age of six can sometimes remember a past life

 


Tim W.:  we all have that ability…

Tim W.:  we get to a point around 2 where we don’t remember prior to that

Tim W.:  we can however train the mind to find those chemical and biological patterns to go back further…

Tim W.:  then we can remember invitro and then into past lives…at least according to what I have read and it seems to make some sense to me…anything is possible

 


P.:  would that bring us to a better awarenes?

 


Tim W.:  that is life’s search

Tim W.:  always within

 


P.:  I mean an awareness to the truth of all

 


Tim W.:  I find meditation has been a great tool for this

 


P.:  I have just started meditation after my accident…it has done so much for me

 


Tim W.:  that in itself is merely acceptance…we struggle to find reason and we struggle to learn acceptance…that stuggle is struggle not acceptance

 


P.:  I am a beginner

 


Tim W.:  we all are…we learn to roll on our tummies before we sit, then crawl, walk then run

 


P.:  so there does not have to be a reason? we just are, yes?

 


Tim W.:  start from where we are and move from there…the issue arises that we want the goal immediately…and them mind then says it is impossible

Tim W.:  there does not have to be a reason…all just is

Tim W.:  or neti, neti…not this, not this

Tim W.:  our mind tries to say there are reasons, because that is its function…finding black and white…yet there are many colours and shades

 


P.:  I have so much to discover…I am only just discovering…I often feel so human in my thinking…smiles

 


Tim W.:  we have to allow … in that desire we put energy into it and it gets further away…I call it the shopping cart syndrome…we puch the cart and it stays in front of us..only when we let go do we walk

Tim W.:  into it

Tim W.:  we are HUMAN

Tim W.:  so feeling so is a truth

Tim W.:  accept it an be so…we have animal instincts and divine…we are both

Tim W.:  we are all

Tim W.:  all is us

 


P.:  yes, I think that desire can become a double edged sword in this

 


Tim W.:  desire again like fear is within the mind

 


P.:  desire is and fear is…

 


Tim W.:  we may achieve that desire, but where does that leave us…creating a new desire and the cycle continues

 


P.:  no?

P.:  sigh…a pattern begins…

 


Tim W.:  they are manifestations of the mind…they exist there but no where else

Tim W.:  so so they exist…if we make it so yes…if we do not then we only have now, the present, love, bliss and being

 


P.:  we are all…different parts of a whole

 


Tim W.:  and the whole is different parts of us

Tim W.:  they are one in the same

 


P.:  yes i see that now

P.:  the power of now

 


Tim W.:  refractions of the light…a crystal will refract the colours of the spectrum yet it is from a single light

 


P.:  a great example Tim

 


Tim W.:  Eckhart Tolle…power of now…yes

Tim W.:  simple yet the mind keeps us from it.

Tim W.:  depression from thinking about the past

Tim W.:  worry from thinking about the future

 


P.:  how does one stay on track…

P.:  arrgh

 


Tim W.:  neither exist except within the mind

 


P.:  worry destroys

P.:  sounds so peaceful

 


Tim W.:  on track…we are continually on track

 


P.:  what will be, will be

 


Tim W.:  only our judgements on it create the illusion of something different

Tim W.:  yes worry destroys, but it keeps things in check as well…and we come back to good and bad…both and neither

 


P.:  this may sound strange…but….what does one do with the mind??

 


Tim W.:  we can try to control it…through awareness…the reactions may still be for a time…but in time with that new patterns are established and then it simply is

Tim W.:  that is what meditation brings us to

 


P.:  ahhh

 


Tim W.:  first focus…to keep the mind on track

Tim W.:  then concentration…to keep the mind steady

Tim W.:  then meditation when the mind is stilled

 


P.:  peace comes with this stillness

 


Tim W.:  the samadhi…when the soul is now in full awareness

Tim W.:  stillness comes with stillness….peace again is a definition within the mind

 


P.:  but i have noticed that I am becoming unconsciously aware of things

P.:  after I meditate I mean

 


Tim W.:  hmmm…unconsciously aware of things…if you are aware then it is in the conscious

 


P.:  would it be that stillness and peace are one and the same minus the label?

 


Tim W.:  in meditation then you are bringing things from the unconscious to the conscious mind so they can be addressed

Tim W.:  absolutely…labels and definitions…peace exists because of its opposite…stillness exists because of its opposite…when in total we are just being

 


P.:  so, the things that I label important are coming to the surface and I am becoming aware of them

 


Tim W.:  or things that you are not aware of that are important are coming to the surface…

Tim W.:  six in one half a dozen in the other

 


P.:  thanks Tim

 


Tim W.:  if they did not exist in your mind prior…they were not conscious thoughts..they lie beneath…in bringing them to the surface then the waves can be seen and they too become only the ocean

 


P.:  I’m gathering a better understanding

 


Tim W.:  it all comes P.

Tim W.:  just like the turtle

Tim W.:  he does in the end win the race…though in reality there is no race only being

 


P.:  ah…the infamous turtle…

 

 
Tim W.:  hahahah…there are many parables that we take for granted and pay lip service to, yet there are tremendous simplicities within them

 


P.:  are they not written for children…hmmm…


 

To be continued….

 

Stay tuned…

 

Part III will be available one week from today!

 

 

 

 

 

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